Divorce Revolution / Explosion de Divorce

What the hell is going on, in here and in Tunisia…I keep hearing an increasing number of divorce cases, many of them for next no valid reason.

In the State where I live, two Tunisian buddies having the same age as mine, are getting a divorce, and what a divorce!!! A very expensive one, with lawyers & fees & settlements on the financial side, and kid’s custody & humiliation & stress on the emotional side.

The first case is adultery. The guy working hard found his Tunisian wife dating a black (no stereotyping intended) guy in a bar; she claimed she had to work over time then later, changed her version to looking for more 'diverse' friends.

The second case, the lady failed to integrate into the Canadian society and the guy was not accomodating and patient enough to help her out. So she went home, filed a suit against him in Tunis for improper treatment, and another one in Canada for damages and failure to attend at her needs. Luckily, no kids are involved here. Case to be continued…

The third one: The husband was middle-eastern and decided all of a sudden to close down and go home. The Tunisian wife didn’t comply, but then for the sake of her family's well-being, she moved out with him. Things were fine at first, but the Husband's family had a different agenda, re-marry their son to a local and kick out the Tunisian back to her home country. Since middle-eastern law (except modern Lebanon) favors male in marriage litigation, the wife could not challenge the husband’s decision and the matter was refered to the foreign office.

In Tunis, one close family member is also filing for divorce. Initially, the procedure was peaceful with a settlement favorable to both parties, but later the ex-wife became greedy and she disputed the settlement and took the initial decision to appeal. In the mean time, both are locked in a pseudo-seperation-divorced-limbo state. Each party is waiting for the other to make mistakes (adultry that is) to score points with the court.

Last but not the least, a pilot aged 50+, realized that his wife - going through menopause - is not longer attractive (he meant no longer fulfilling her duties) and he needed a change, therefore he dumped his entire family (kids aged 18 & 20) and moved out of the country with a married 25yr flight attendant, whowanted to experience an extra marital relationship.

What the hell with these peoples? I can imagine this happening in kids aged 20+ but not with individuals aged 40s or 50s. I’m sure there is a good reason for every divorce, after all it’s allowed by the religion when the atmosphere and the relationship within the couple becomes unbearable. But so far, the arguments are quite shaky, most of them are around:

# 1: Money: your money, my money, I take yours butI keep mine. No sharing whatsover

# 2: Family: Bad influence from the elderly, too much interference from relatives & friends.

# 3: Attractiveness and chemistry, also referred to as ‘Sex’: You can hear arguments like he’s not capable of performing his male duties or the opposite, she’s frigid and ‘unresponsive’.

# 4: Kids: She cannot conceive (or he sometimes, but shuut, never admitted) so she’s dumped.

# 5: Mixed marriages. They work at first but two thirds of them fail at the very end (usually 15+years) and they fail miserably.

Com’on people (especially you the youngsters) think twice between you step into a relationship. Think 100 times before you step into a marriage. Think 1 million times before you conceive kids and don’t think about divorce at all, think how you can make it work instead.

Stop being selfish and learn to give to your party and last but not the least, there is no perfect relationship, no perfect marriage.